No asshole rule

by Wojciech Adam Koszek   ⋅   Dec 31, 2012   ⋅   East Palo Alto, CA

If you have social problems at your workspace this book can be helpful for you to gain more perspective and maybe even pinpoint problems.

I scored 7/23 on “Are you an asshole” scale, which makes me be in a “You have to watch yourself” category.

Based on the question in the questionnaire I think some more questions would have to be added, to make this list not overly sensitive.

My company in the context of “Good companies to work for” is mentioned in this book, among few other good examples.

Several examples or harassment are actually hard to believe, since most of the American companies are “equal opportunity” places, meaning what e.g.: using racial comments in an argument with another person is strictly prohibited. Thus not sure why activities mentioned in this group sometimes become routine for some individuals (on the other hand why do equal opportunity employers hand you a “White/Black/Asian/Indian” form at the beginning of your contract?)

So instead of classifying people as “certified asshole” it should rather classify it as “prohibited” behavior.

The thing which I must honestly say: some people are very resistant to being polite. Basically: unless you stretch, stop on or just bypass the border of good behavior, it’ll be very hard to achieve anything. Thus if trying polite doesn’t seem to work, you must try harder.

From the typical corporate life, probably I experienced one of the behaviors explained. Only through e-mail, where my recipient started ignoring my polite questions and requests, while I was still being CCed on his communication with other people on my case. But that’s rare.

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About the author: I'm Wojciech Adam Koszek. I like software, business and design. Poland native. In Bay Area since 2010.   More about me